how to write the great american novel, abridged.

[hollyslowly]

In the interests of uncluttering my desktop, a collection of quotes that I have saved in a thousand various .rtf files.

Comments

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

And I really despise this because all that ever results from it is that the wronged party ends up feeling like the least important person in the equation. It's like "Oh, yes, person X did something terrible to you, but time has passed and they've made some gesture about possibly being sorry in which they accept none of the blame, so you should forgive them" and because I DON'T DO FORGIVE I'm terrible. Not the people who DID the terrible thing. Ugh Christianity and victim-blaming funtimes.

[formanymiles.livejournal.com]

And I've known some people who "forgive" for the sake of having something to hold over your head. People are the worst.

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

Lawrence said something uncomplimentary about complex men who know how sacrifice lifts up the redeemer and casts down the bought; I think the same is true of forgiveness. A former friend of mine used to call it "bigger-manning" someone, when you are deliberately "more mature" rather than giving in to the more natural urge to kick someone in the shin and call them a fuckhole, so that anyone watching will know that you are the better person.